Expressing your anger in the wrong way can instantly result in a loss of
intimacy in your relationship. Next time you’re about to scream at him or “hold it in,”
follow these steps and
watch now they powerfully bring your man
closer.
Just letting out your feelings all over a man
by scream and yelled at him will only
push him away. And keep it low your feelings by pretending (to him, or to
yourself) that you feel something else will also create distance between you
and a man. Here’s why…and what to do instead so you not only say what you
really want, but you draw a man closer to you because of it.
HOW HIDING YOUR ANGER CREATES
DISTANCE
Our self-esteem depends on how honest we are
with ourselves, and the moment we say or
do something that is not being true to what’s really going on with us, our
self-esteem goes down. And as our self-esteem goes down, we become less
attractive. A man is naturally drawn to a woman who is in tune with her
feelings and who has both the confidence and the self-love to NOT put up with
what doesn't feel good. Men are attracted to strong independent women who can clean the house,
work hard, make dinner and give you the best blow job ever and she will do it
over again tomorrow with no complain. Turn on for a real man.
Usually, we hide our anger so much that we wind up unleashing
it on a man in a way he can’t hear – or we express anger about something
completely different than what we’re actually angry about.
If you have ever blown up at a man because he
didn't pick up after himself when you were actually craving more romance and
attention from him, you know what I mean. You were really feeling angry
about feeling unloved, not about his dirty socks.
8 STEPS THAT WILL CHANGE
EVERYTHING
So, if we’re feeling hurt, disappointed and
angry, how do we “let it out” truthfully in a way that increases his attraction
to us and changes whatever is going on that made us angry in the first place?
1. STOP. Interrupt whatever you’re
about to do or say – it hasn’t worked before. Think before you talk and
especially if you had use the same line before and didn’t worked.
2. Sit down. Don’t go somewhere
else so he won’t see you.
3. Take a deep breath. Let it out,
and then breathe in and out two more times. Imagine the air flowing all
the way down your body and relaxing each body part as it touches it.
4. Find the feeling. Let’s say he made
plans to do something else when you were hoping for a romantic evening.
Know what the feeling is NOT: It’s NOT “I’m so glad you made other plans,
because I really wanted to spend the evening alone washing my hair.” You
know you feel BAD. You know you feel disappointed and angry.
5.Tell the truth. Without saying the
word “you” (which only serves to blame him and make him defensive), say:
“I feel bad,” or “I feel disappointed,” or “I feel angry.”
7. That’s it; you’re done. Listen to
what he has to say, but don’t get into a discussion about it. Your goal
here was simply to honor your feelings (and therefore yourself) by
communicating your feelings to him.
8. Immediately do something that makes
you happy. It could be something as small as making yourself a cup of
coffee or going for a walk. The point is that you are taking care of
yourself rather than expecting him to do so, which makes you even more
attractive in his eyes.
The
next time you feel yourself build up with anger and unsure about how to handle it, try the
steps above. It takes practice and time to handle it in a right way. Once you do, I know you’ll feel so much better
about yourself – and so much more adored by the man in your life. The
stronger you feel, the more the anger will dissolve, and you will discover a
whole new level of intimacy in your relationship.
