I hear so many times "I can't be with him anymore but I am afraid to leave" or "I love him but he is the wrong for me and I don't know how to leave"
Why do we have go trough all these nonsense. Would you rather be alone than be with the wrong person?
I'd rather be single than waste my time on somebody who's not gonna take me seriously. I'd rather watch other couples be happy than be in a relationship where I'm gonna be miserable. I'd rather feel lonely than feel alone even when I'm with somebody. I'd rather wait until someone comes along & genuinely wants to be with me, than rush into something with someone who just wanna play games with me. Fuck all that nonsense. Too many people just wanna 'have fun' nowadays, which is fine because at our age, I don't blame you, it's normal.
When enough is enough. When you said I want to be happy and you are not the one for me. What is going to take to realize how important is YOU to be happy rather than try to make someone else happy and you cry your eyes out every night. How much you value yourself as a individual?
Ask your self what makes you happy, what makes you smile, what makes you alive? If you have the answer then live it and move on. Don't waste your life with the wrong person just because you are afraid to be alone or because you feel comfortable in the relationship. Don't let life pass you by , don't give your life to someone else. You have only ONE. You don't always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go and see what happens. Never underestimate your strength You are born for a purpose and are blessed with the power to achieve it.
In life you will meet 2 kinds of people: The Ones who build you up,and The Ones who tear you down. But in the end you will thank them BOTH.
Your destiny is too great don't let fear intimidate you
Wednesday, April 3, 2013
Tuesday, April 2, 2013
How a man knows he is loved !
Where a woman feels love for those who emotionally and physically support her,
a man feels love in response to a woman's gracious, and loving reactions to him. To keep the score even in a relationship,a man really doesn't require anything but love.
Sometimes men are very vulnerable in ways that are familiar to women. You can tell because they come to you to talk. They ask you what you think of a situation. Once they finish speaking, they are ready to hear your advice, and it is the ultimate sign of trust and love from a man.
When men help you, men are very vulnerable. Were they competent at making you happy?
They are not sure, but you can let them know. They need a lot of appreciation and your expression of happiness will evoke more helping behaviors.
Men rarely say they are sorry because they are afraid that they won’t be forgiven .When they are wrong, they are terrified of their own incompetence. A man will love you very much if you forgive him his flaws and love him anyway.
1. Let him know you love having sex with him
2. Show that you are happy to be with him when he comes home from work
3. Don't make a big deal out of his errors - like forgetting his keys, or taking the wrong road :-)
4.If he disapoints you try not to get angry. ( I know ladies this is the hard one but you can do it)
5. Ask for things you want, rather than emphasize what he has done wrong
10 Signs You're a Control Freak
Control freaks rarely know that they are one. They believe that they are helping people with their "constructive criticism" or taking over a project because " no one else will do it right." They don't see their controlling behaviors as symptoms of what's really going on-their own anxiety has taken over noticeable.
Irrational thoughts abound in our high stress world: If I don't get this contract, I'll get fired. If I don't perform well she/he will leave me. If I don't get that raise, I suck at my job ....and on and on and on............. All of these thoughts might be true, but probably not.
Want to know if you're a control freak? Here are eight signs for your self-diagnosing pleasure.
- You believe that if someone would change one or two things about themselves, you'd be happier. So you try to "help them" change this behavior by pointing it out, usually over and over.
- You judge others' behavior as right or wrong and passive-aggressively withhold attention until they fall in line with your expectations. Sitting in silent judgment is a master form of control.
- You offer "constructive criticism"
- You change who you are or what you believe so that someone will accept you. Instead of just being yourself, you attempt to incept others by managing their impression of you.
- You have lots of personal rules, routines, rituals, and ceremonies.
- You "help" other people drive - tell them what route to take, when to turn, where to park, remind them that the traffic light has changed.
- You dislike depending on others, accepting help from them, or allowing them to do things for you.8. You "over-plan" simple activities.9. You find it difficult to admit making mistakes, being wrong or misinformed about something, or acknowledging that you've changed your mind.10. You become angry, irritable, or anxious when someone or something makes you late, when things don't start on time, or things don't go according to plan.
You believe that if you can change another person's undesirable behavior, then you will be happier or more fulfilled. You make someone else responsible for how you feel.
The thing is, you are only responsible for you. The road to better relationships always starts with you. Rather than attempt to control everyone else, work on becoming a better version of yourself. Here are a few ideas:
- Be vulnerable with people.
- Be realistic about your expectations of others.
- Quit the passive-aggressive nonsense--be direct.
- Accept that a large portion of life is laced with unknowns.
- Embrace confrontation--it really is sometimes the only thing you can do.
- Take responsibility for your own happiness.
If you work on your own improvement instead of trying to control others, healthier relationships at work, as well as everywhere else, will then come to you as a result.
Saturday, March 30, 2013
Type of Women That Most Men Come Across
Appearance in this case is not everything!
Sex with a beautiful woman is a dream that potentially every straight man at some point of his life was able to come true. It is wrong, however, to believe that the sexual skills of a man is measured against the number of beautiful women is fascinating between the sheets.
But does it really the sexiest women give more pleasure to a man or is it overrated?
There is a few type of women that most men come across:
The Less attractive woman the better sex experience you can get because she try hard to pleasure the Man. So if you don't go for super model every time you are looking for sex or attention you may happen to experience better sexual satisfaction.
Think about it..........
Sex with a beautiful woman is a dream that potentially every straight man at some point of his life was able to come true. It is wrong, however, to believe that the sexual skills of a man is measured against the number of beautiful women is fascinating between the sheets.
But does it really the sexiest women give more pleasure to a man or is it overrated?
There is a few type of women that most men come across:
1.The woman who tries too hard
2. The woman who is afraid.
3. The woman, who did not move.
4. The woman who is trying to do something.
5. The woman who knows what she's doing.
Think about it..........
Friday, March 29, 2013
What Women Want in a Man
What makes women happy? Hot sexy guy? Great listener or good talker? Good lover????Below answers are my opinion, you don't have to agree but you should you read it. You may learn something :-) One thing I know for sure is this doctor seriously need to get out there and instead of confusing men with his advice below he should really try it first for himself. OK MEN take it from a WOMAN with dating experience. Read his advice and read mine. You tell me which is more acquire it these days.
I read an article today by Dr. M. Gary Neuman, family counselor and author of “Connect to Love,” who, based on his research, gave us some insights on what women want.
http://magazine.foxnews.com/love/5-things-women-want-most-man
DR.M Gray: Time: Of all the things we talk about women wanting, time with their spouse is it. The vast majority of women in happy relationships get 30 minutes of uninterrupted time with their husbands each day. Twenty-four percent of women who claim to be in unhappy relationships spend fewer than five minutes a day with their spouses.
Galina: Seriously. Time. 5 Minutes. Come on. If you are in a relationship how can you possibly spend only 5 minutes with that person. Let's start counting "Hi honey. How was your day" 1 minute. Grab his ass and give him a kiss 30 seconds. 3 Minutes talk about their day. She have 30 seconds left. Ok going to a shower goodnight. If you really have that type of relationship you should face it you are going to be alone for the rest of your life. But if Doctor M Gray meant 5 minutes of Hi baby.... Blow job and shot of Tequila I agree with him but I don't think he meant that, so you tell me what kind of woman can give only 5 minutes for her man??? I can tell you, a WOMAN that is getting it somewhere else but not from your pants. Thank you Dr.M Gray you really know how to approach cheaters.
DR.M Gray: Time: Appreciation: Nowadays, women take care of the children and make salaries, and they tend to be very underappreciated. Women should be expressive of what makes them feel appreciated, saying, “These are the kinds of things I like … x, y and z.” Men should listen, and women should tune in when their husbands are appreciative.
Galina: Yes of course every woman need appreciation, I can not agree more and most men need to hear what we want in order to react. I have previous experience in this matter, but sometimes MEN show their appreciation in their own way. I know a lot of women who say " He doesn't appreciate anything I do for him" or " He never do anything I want" Trust me I was one of these women once in my life, but you know what I learned that in a relationship you do things for your partner without expectations and if you expect anything back this is not a real love. If that person loves you she/he will find the way to show you appreciation. One thing you should never forget Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well. So boys Show her respect, tell her you love her, call her beautiful, protect her in any way you can.
DR.M Gray: Understanding: It’s important for women to have men who understand them. It’s also important for women to help men understand how to listen. Men often don’t have a clue they’re being bad listeners.
Women have to sense a time limit to conversation. More often than not, men are sitting there thinking, “When is this going to end?” I would say 15 to 20 minutes, max. Women should say to their husbands, “It’s 8:00 p.m.; I need you to listen until 8:20 p.m.” Women may deserve 10 hours, but most men are not the best at listening to serious, emotional conversations that go on.
Galina: This is absolutely bullshit. MEN DO NOT UNDERSTAND WOMEN AND THEY NEVER WILL. We are different animals. Men pretend to understand women for few reasons: He doesn't want to be lonely, he wants to get laid, have female opinion so he can argue with someone, feel more powerful, get what he wants, have peace and so and so....but if you missing the vagina you will never understand women, don't even try and Dr. M Gray I bet you that there is no one woman in this world that ever said "He is perfect" He understand me completely>...and if this woman exist I want to meet her. So MEN, don't take it personally but you will never understand women completely. At one point there will be a moment when you say " I really don't understand women" ...Happened many times isn't???
DR.M Gray: Fun: This is one of those things that often goes out the window, especially after the first child is born. All the factors like jobs, rents or mortgages can add to relationship strain. Couples should set up a date night — once every week, even if they are tired — during which they spend a minimum of two hours alone. During this time, the couple should talk about everything BUT work, money and children.
Galina: I agree with Dr.M Gray on this FUN is very important but don't make it feel like a date night and feel awkward make it worth the while. Do something totally out of the ordinary you know better what that is.
DR.M Gray:Kind Gestures: Hugs, kisses, unexpected telephone calls to say "I love you." Simple things. I suggest five touch points a day for one week — any kind gesture that takes 30 seconds or less. If a man can do this for his partner for one week, both will be amazed at how much better they feel in the relationship.
Galina: Don't make it look as a duty. Do it because you feel it and you want it. Very important to have physical contact on a daily bases. I love you messages every day is good but sometimes can be annoying I am not saying that won't make us feel good of course yes but saying it and showing it are two different things so make sure if you say it every day and when you go home you put your feet on a table and wait for your woman to bring you a beer and tell her I love you, do you really thing that will do the magic...NO, instead when you get home bring her a flower or a chocolate once in a while and before she even say anything take her clothes off and have crazy sex on a kitchen table.....back up your words and trust me she will bring you not only beer but you will get also a blow job while you are drinking it :-)
Women Want Most in a Man by my opinion:1. Man who knows what he wants
2. Sex 7 times a week minimum
3. Compliments
4. Trust
5. Good conversation
6. Respect
7. Fun
8. Good manners
9. Responsible
10. A man who is ambitious
Thursday, March 28, 2013
How to Keep a Relationship Fresh
1.Make love often and with passion. The beauty of a long term sexual relationship is that the intimacy builds over the years. That intimacy makes sex much more genuine, gratifying and fulfilling. It is also an area that is not often put high on the importance scale. Work, career, school, and kids often exhaust our energy so we find it hard to “be in the mood." Make the intimate part of your relation a high priority. Make time for “love sessions." Take time to “make love” rather than just have sex. Use candles, perfume, or whatever that is that get your juices flowing. Like all else in life, intimacy dies if it is not nourished. Feeding it with affection, compliments and time will make it something that feels less like an obligation at the end of a hard day, but something to look forward to.
2.Take advantage of new technology; text and send e-cards. With so many of us pressed for time, why not use technology to “keep in touch” during the day. A compliment, an affection or a quick “Hello, You are being thought of” via text can spark anyone’s day. E-cards are fast, and convenient. There are many sites that allow you to send them for free. You can find any type of sentiment from cute and funny, to serious and romantic or teasingly sexy. The bonus is that you can include a personal message along with it if you’d like.
3.Hold hands, hug and give quick kisses often. Nothing is as good for the soul and the emotional health of a person as the human touch. As teenagers, we hold hands, give quick kisses as hello and goodbye and cuddle as we sit close. Why not keep that sense of youth no matter how old we are or how long we have been have together as a couple? Holding hands keeps a connection and closeness, no matter what we are doing. An enthusiastic hug uplifts us; a quick kiss says “glad to see you”.
4.Date often. Make dates and anticipate them with excitement. Dress up and look your best. Discover a new cologne or perfume. Set the stage as if you are trying to “impress” the way you did at the beginning of the relationship. If your budget limits you to a rental movie at home, change it up. Set out cheese and crackers instead of the usual popcorn. Turn off the lights and let your fireplace illuminate the room. No fireplace? Candles do just as well. The point is to set the atmosphere of a date. The desire to look your best, feel your best and have the best time possible will rejuvenate those feelings of a first date.
5. Write old fashioned love letters. There is nothing like the power of the written word. The idea that a person would sit and attempt to convey their feeling through words is not only a heart warming gesture, but one that can be renewed over and over again through each reread. When you need an emotional lift, you can revisit them and instantly get the emotional recharge. Rereading a partner’s love letters instantly brings you to the intensity when the relationship was young. Writing letters throughout the relationship tells your partner those feelings are still alive and well.
6.Learn something “new” together.
7. Take dance lessons, take an art class or learn to ice skate together! Take a day trip to a new place neither of you have ever visited before. If you look back on your life, you probably connected with people whom you shared new events or experiences, something you experienced together for the first time. Those experiences create closeness. Find something that can be a “first” for the two of you. You might also develop a new interest the two of you can enjoy!
8.Strengthen your art of conversation. If you find yourself with “nothing to talk about anymore”, find something to start the conversation. Fill your partner in on the “funny“ things that happened at work, the gossip; anything trivial and interesting. Remember, we all need to use our partners as a “sounding board," but if that is the only conversation that we are having with our “significant other," even the most sympathetic listener can have a breaking point. Make “sharing your day” a pleasure event, not a dreaded evil.
9. Be a good listener. There still is the time when your partner will need you to be there, just to listen. You have probably heard the joke a thousand times and heard the family issue twice that often, so listening to your partner is not always easy. The extra effort, however, can be priceless. Remember, often people don’t want their problems solved, just a shoulder to lean on. Taking away the burden of “fixing it," might make it easier.
10. Take care of yourself; mind, body and spirit. Be passionate about life. There is truth to the belief that if we nourish the child in us our spirits can stay young, even when our outer body doesn’t. Stay young in mind and spirit. Take care of your health, emotional and physical. It is much easier to keep a relationship young when you exude that aura yourself. Start by keeping yourself “young at heart."
2.Take advantage of new technology; text and send e-cards. With so many of us pressed for time, why not use technology to “keep in touch” during the day. A compliment, an affection or a quick “Hello, You are being thought of” via text can spark anyone’s day. E-cards are fast, and convenient. There are many sites that allow you to send them for free. You can find any type of sentiment from cute and funny, to serious and romantic or teasingly sexy. The bonus is that you can include a personal message along with it if you’d like.
3.Hold hands, hug and give quick kisses often. Nothing is as good for the soul and the emotional health of a person as the human touch. As teenagers, we hold hands, give quick kisses as hello and goodbye and cuddle as we sit close. Why not keep that sense of youth no matter how old we are or how long we have been have together as a couple? Holding hands keeps a connection and closeness, no matter what we are doing. An enthusiastic hug uplifts us; a quick kiss says “glad to see you”.
4.Date often. Make dates and anticipate them with excitement. Dress up and look your best. Discover a new cologne or perfume. Set the stage as if you are trying to “impress” the way you did at the beginning of the relationship. If your budget limits you to a rental movie at home, change it up. Set out cheese and crackers instead of the usual popcorn. Turn off the lights and let your fireplace illuminate the room. No fireplace? Candles do just as well. The point is to set the atmosphere of a date. The desire to look your best, feel your best and have the best time possible will rejuvenate those feelings of a first date.
5. Write old fashioned love letters. There is nothing like the power of the written word. The idea that a person would sit and attempt to convey their feeling through words is not only a heart warming gesture, but one that can be renewed over and over again through each reread. When you need an emotional lift, you can revisit them and instantly get the emotional recharge. Rereading a partner’s love letters instantly brings you to the intensity when the relationship was young. Writing letters throughout the relationship tells your partner those feelings are still alive and well.
6.Learn something “new” together.
7. Take dance lessons, take an art class or learn to ice skate together! Take a day trip to a new place neither of you have ever visited before. If you look back on your life, you probably connected with people whom you shared new events or experiences, something you experienced together for the first time. Those experiences create closeness. Find something that can be a “first” for the two of you. You might also develop a new interest the two of you can enjoy!
8.Strengthen your art of conversation. If you find yourself with “nothing to talk about anymore”, find something to start the conversation. Fill your partner in on the “funny“ things that happened at work, the gossip; anything trivial and interesting. Remember, we all need to use our partners as a “sounding board," but if that is the only conversation that we are having with our “significant other," even the most sympathetic listener can have a breaking point. Make “sharing your day” a pleasure event, not a dreaded evil.
9. Be a good listener. There still is the time when your partner will need you to be there, just to listen. You have probably heard the joke a thousand times and heard the family issue twice that often, so listening to your partner is not always easy. The extra effort, however, can be priceless. Remember, often people don’t want their problems solved, just a shoulder to lean on. Taking away the burden of “fixing it," might make it easier.
10. Take care of yourself; mind, body and spirit. Be passionate about life. There is truth to the belief that if we nourish the child in us our spirits can stay young, even when our outer body doesn’t. Stay young in mind and spirit. Take care of your health, emotional and physical. It is much easier to keep a relationship young when you exude that aura yourself. Start by keeping yourself “young at heart."
Monday, March 25, 2013
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