Friends with benefits ( FWB)

No strings attached relationship??? As long as you know what you are getting  into. Is it  that easy to say
" See ya later baby"...and just walk out without any feelings involved? Few things are worth it : walk of shame is not that embarrassing, won't have to worry driving home after one too many glasses of wine, bed time is sexy , silly and fun. On the other side how can we keep ourselves from not falling in love?
Before you make this decision of No strings-attached arrangement make sure that you understand that you can't make him your boyfriend dream and don't think you will change his mind. Don't get mad if your FWB goes out with someone else.He is not cheating on you. Agreed? After several sexy hot nights with your FWB you start wonder if you should go out for coffee, see a movie.....but I say no. Don't do it. Unless you both have feelings and want more from this FWB relationship. Make sure you protect yourself because while your FWB have no responsibilities to you is just sex. So don't be stupid and think that he is only sleeping with you. He is not. You know that but is good to admit it to yourself. Use protection. Don't convince yourself the relationship is more serious than it is. Saying no is ok, saying yes is ok. Just be clear how far can go.....and very simple "Don't hate the players, hate the game"

What do guys prefer boobs or butt ?

I know most of you will say BOTH of course but there must be first choice and higher preference. Two men's favorite things. They belong together like butter and Nutella . Some men are lucky enough to have a woman with good boobs and sexy ass that turn heads around. Some guys like small asses , some like big butts and some don't care as long is sexy in their eyes. Boobs , just about the same, big , sexy , small, nipple preference.Would you rather have shelf rack flat boobs with jelly  round butt  or Triple D and hard time to breath with cottage cheese ass? However, what if you could only have one? 

Phone sex - YES PLEASE!!!

                                         

Phone sex is the perfect way to make passionate connection when you are apart. Use your imagination, describe your detail fantasies. At first can be little bit uncomfortable and tongue tied but when you lose in up  lie back  close your eyes and picture his fingers all over your body . Play with them everywhere and anywhere. You will feel so in harmony, ecstatic and wet. And if you don't feel comfortable you should ask your man to take the Lead  and you should concentrate to every word he said.  Be careful it can be very slippery so make sure you leave the phone in a safe place but close enough to hear his voice.You will be surprise how easy you can reach an orgasm and relief your tension :-)  Now call him & do him ;-) and get ready for Girls night Out.                                    

Ladies why can't we speak openly about using vibrator?

People always talk about kinky staff and wild performances behind doors but why we can't open up and express loud out how we really feel outside the bedroom. Vibrator is one the best pleasurable creation and even the first one was made in  year 1734 we still have hesitation to talk about it and feel ashamed.
Masturbation can improve your mood without any obligation. You can have multiple orgasm. Can relax you and make you  more affectionate. Definitely can improve your sex life with your partner. Even better vibrator doesn't talk, doesn't control you ( you are the one in control) , always available and never get tired to go all night long :-) So instead of hiding it in the closet take it all  out use it, abuse it , consume it ........Oh yes and one more thing give him a name make it more personal in a sexual fascinating way.

Why do we always question our happiness?

Why do we always  ask questions and look for a reasons for our happiness?  We often ask ourselves when everything seems to be perfect is it too good to be true? 
I think is possible, actually I know it is because I am living it. Nothing is perfect and nothing is forever but when is reality I except it and I don't ask questions. Why we always get scare more from happiness and joy than from fear and pain. Once you feel happy and find yourself smile for no reason why do you have to ask why. Instead ask yourself WHY NOT? 
You deserve to be happy, to smile and to enjoy life the way is giving to you. You attract what you create. If you create happiness surround you that's what you going to get back. The feeling is just amazing when  you realize that you are above the small problems and answer with positive attitude. You happiness depends on your approach of life. When everything is good in your life don't try to find something or don't try to create the reason not to be, because when you looking for something you will find it but is it that what you are looking for or you are just afraid to face reality. You are saying " This is too good to be true" so does that mean you want to be unhappy, miserable and sad  to be more believable or do you want to enjoy these happy days and look forward for tomorrow? I know maybe is hard to except that is just too good to be true when your girlfriend is Hot, Smart, Hard Worker, Good cook, Love to clean and wash  dishes, Doesn't want any gifts just your love, Tells you everyday I love you and on top of all that she gives you the best blow job ever and always horny for you......TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE. Well yes I can see why you are afraid because is too much of a good but how about if you don't look for any reasons and stop question why is so good . Don't be afraid to be happy and to be loved. 
You have a reason to smile and once you make it a habit there is nothing that can make you cry. Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadows. Is just so simple don't make it complicated. Don't think about if one day will be over think about how can you keep it longer. If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.

How do you know if your feelings are real?

Feeling you inside doesn't mean that you understand my needs. Listening to my words doesn't mean that you understand what I am saying. Kissing me doesn't mean that we connect. How do you really know when you have the real physical attraction and connection to your partner?
What is that thing can really lift you up of our feet and make you fly?

Before you answer these questions ask yourself  what is the meaning  to you and the definition of Love, Good Sex, Good Conversation  and a Friendship.
Love comes in different forms Love for your family, Love for your friends ,Love for you pets and Love for your partner. Love doesn't come as easy as sex or words. Love can take a lifetime to understand and feel  build based on respect, trust , attraction and communication.
A girl told me once " I went out last night and I met this guy OMG, he was so good in bed the best sex I ever had" , and I can see her sparkle in her eyes and the desire for more ... I have to be honest that made me horny :-) and then she said " I am so in Love" . Oh no girlfriend this is not LOVE. Just because you opened the safety box and your Vagina went on testosterone diet  blowing the whistle and saw your falling  star doesn't mean that you are in Love it means that you can probably will experience unpleasant itch, sleepless nights waiting for the phone to ring and broken heart hopping that the next one it's going to be different.
Make the difference between FUCK AND LOVE.
You experience LOVE when you touch the person you can actually feel it not only in the moment but in the future, the feeling of I want to touch you forever or when you kiss the person you want never to end, or when you make love you can actually have a real orgasm and you don't have to fake it in order not to hurt his ego.
I will explain and be very detail of how a woman and man really know if they are in LOVE..............next blog

One Night Stand - The Morning After ( GIRLS ONLY)

Ladies, I know chances are, you've been in this situation. Or, if you're too goody-goody to admit it, you've had a "friend" who was in the same situation. It's nothing to be ashamed of, either way. It's not something you want to share at the Thanksgiving dinner table with all your relatives either, but at one point or another, the majority of us have had a one-night stand. Whether it be a drunken blur from a fraternity party or a flirtation from across the bar that went a bit too far, and you wake up to find yourself next to a guy that looked a lot more like Leonardo DiCaprio ten shots ago, you find yourself in the ultimate of awkward situations. No matter if it was your call for this to happen or his you both end up in the same bed and be honest with yourself YOU had sex with the stranger. Yes the morning after can be very awkward no matter how great sex was but don't lose your cool, whatever you do, and just follow the following set of guidelines which will help you get through this moment.

Absolutely my number ONE advice
If possible, try to leave before he wakes up. It will make you that much more mysterious. And if he really likes you, he'll attempt to find you. He'll ask around, maybe go again to the same fraternity house or bar that you met at, and he'll look for you. Guys will go to great lengths for a girl they really view as worth the effort.

Don't give him the whole "I've never done this before" routine. That will just make him more likely to think of this as a repeat activity for you. You don't need to prove yourself to anyone. You know in your heart whether or not this is in your nature, and it can be your little secret. No one needs to know how many strangers you've gone home with on multiple occasions. You should feel free to forget that number too, if you like. And if the guy asks you if you've done this before, simply say, "It's not normally my nature," give him a smile, and change the subject. Enough said.

Don't overstay your welcome. You wake up, look at the clock, and you should already be glancing around the room, eyeing your belongings. Don't wait around in bed, especially after he gets up. Don't hang out while he takes a shower either. When the guy leaves the room to take his shower, he secretly is hoping that you will leave during that period of time. Unless he specifically indicates that he would like you to stick around, don't assume. Another indicator of him wanting you to stay would be if he actually invited you to shower with him. I still say you should leave, even when offered the invite.Plus, that shower could be just another testosterone-filled excuse so he can score an extra morning session before he starts his day.

Don't attempt to engage him in conversation. Not all guys are morning people, and having a conversation with a stranger you just woke up next to can be one of the strangest and most uncomfortable experiences. If you find that he's answering you without really answering meaning no interesting answers that's your indicator right there that he just doesn't want to talk. And if you feel that you just must chat with him, don't mention the hook-up, the future, or anything touchy in that aspect. You'll only make him that much more eager to have you leave.

Don't offer to leave your number or ask him to call you. When men want something, they will get it themselves. If he has any intention of calling you, he will ask that you write down your number before you leave. Obviously if you say to him, "Do you want my number?" he's going to feel bad if he says no, so any male would feel the safer choice would be to have you write down your digits, and then they just go straight into the trashcan. And you will be waiting by the phone for a call that will never come!

If he does invite you for breakfast or to hang out, even if you really want to, thank him but turn down the offer. If he has any real interest in you, he will try to set up a future date with you. Besides, do you really want to sit across from the table from him in broad daylight with last night's makeup still on your face?

If you don't remember his name, don't ask him what it is. That will look very bad on your part. See if he remembers yours first. That's a true indicator as to how much interest he really has in you.

If you happen to wake up in his house and find yourself heading down the "Walk of Shame", don't act embarrassed or ashamed. Simply roll your eyes, act like you couldn't care less, and walk out with your head straight up in the air. You have nothing to be ashamed about because you wanted that as much as he did.

Don't ask him "how you were" last night. Chances are, he probably doesn't remember. And if he does, he will say something about it.

Don't get on your cell phone while you get dressed in front of him and tell your friend that you're "in some random guy's room and can't remember how crazy last night was." Save the gossip for when you have left and are well under way.

One-Night stands sometimes are the best sex you ever had. Who says this is a man thing? We women can actually do it much better . Look at you, smile at you, talked you to it, show you affection, suck you in, spin you around and spit you out. Now keep your head up when you do the walk of shame because you got what you want it :-)

One-Night Stand Morning-After DO's and DON'Ts. ( GUYS ONLY)

What a night. You roll over to find someone wrapped in your sheets with her hair covering her face and you try to remember her name and how you got here. Panic appears as you look at the clock and it reads 7:45..it's beyond the time for her to be gone. You have to get started with your day. You wonder to yourself "how can I tell her she needs to go without sounding disrespectful?". You roll out of bed and shuffle around, putting your clothes on and turn the t.v on hoping to wake her. She doesn't move. This is prime time for you to handle the situation as a gentleman even if the only thing you remember about her is that thing she did with her tongue. Here are some rules from my perspective as a female that will help you out.

Don't compliments about her sexual techniques

Keep in mind the woman you just spent the night with knows exactly how she gets down, and what she is capable of doing. Giving a play by play of the night can lead to an uncomfortable exchange of words if she's not quite ready to deal with the situation as a whole and you mention "That thing you do with your tongue was really hot..next time could you..?" There might not even be a next time. Keep in mind some women, just as some men pursue one night stands like it's a sport. Or the opposite could be true and she's never had an overnight tryst before. 

Offer her a cup of coffee or O'J

This is another act that isn’t really a necessity, but that is very, very nice and will definitely not be under-appreciated. Plus, it’s easier than flipping an omelet. That shit takes skill. Coffee and morning after go together like one-night stands and condoms.

Don't brag about your display of physical ability 

Just because you may think she was pleased by your knowledge of the Karma Sutra doesn't mean that she was. Even if she was impressed by your prowess there are a million other things running through her head at this moment other than how sexually advanced you are and how exactly you obtained your knowledge of the female anatomy. Even the most desperate woman will be turned off by the thought of how you practicing on another woman led you to be sleeping with her last night.

If you want to be a true gentleman just ask her to leave 

Making up stories about what you have to do in 15 minutes, or that your dog ran away will only make the female look at you like you're psycho or a liar. The smoothest end would be simply to explain to her you had a good experience, but you have responsibilities to take care of and leave it at that. This is true even if the only responsibility you have to take care of today is to yourself and watching the game at 8 p.m. A majority of females will appreciate your honesty, and many will have things they need to take care of during the day as well.

If you have no intentions of seeing her after that night DO NOT ask to exchange numbers 

Giving her the false impression that you want to continue communicating to "be nice" is the wrong way to go. The only thing that will result from you giving her your number when you really just want her to go away is repeated calls to your phone asking why she hasn't heard from you, continued invites to date, and possibly down the road phone calls from blocked phone numbers at all hours of the day. Just let her know you had a good time and that you're really not interested in anything serious at this time. It may not seem very gentlemanly but being truthful is the best way to pay respect to her.

Help her get home 

Whether it’s calling her a cab, walking her to the nearest subway platform, or giving her a lift home, be a gentleman and help her prevent the obvious walk of shame.

Kiss me...not

Last but not least when she is on her way don't give her long lasting tongue, wet kiss and don't wink. Avoid words like" See you soon"..because you don't mean it...this is an invitation in a cheap way inviting her in your bed without dinner & drinks. If you want to get rid of her as a one-night stand as it was just kiss her on a chick and say " Have a good day" Simple. 

What's your Weekly Pickup Line?

Girl, you better have a license 'cause you're driving me crazy!

15 WAYS TO GET LAID

OK BOYS GUESS WHAT - IT'S GOING TO BE A WET WEEKEND.ARE YOU READY TO HAVE FUN? 

15 WAYS TO GET LAID J

How do I get laid? It's a question asked by millions of guys, and not just virgins either. Everyone wants to know how to get laid in any and every possible scenario. 

Be as Attractive as Possible
Being attractive is the most important thing there is. If you wanna catch the biggest fish in the bar, you have to be as attractive as possible. It's not necessary, however, to look like Bradley Cooper (damn sexy) just to get laid. Sure, it helps to have a perfect ass, sexy shoulders, mysterious smile, perfect teeth,  soul-piercing eyes,…. but if you squeeze every last drop of attractiveness out of yourself -- no matter what level you’re at -- I guarantee you'll be six  inches or longer J deep inside the treasure box in no time at all.

Don’t Be Cheap
Pay for the cab, buy her a drink. Also a good way to discover your preferences.  A girl who offers to pay is likely less entitled/not a gold digger, which will go a long way if you ever decide to get serious. Decline her offer because you are a man

Be Good at Something
In other words, be interesting. Cooking, soccer, guitar, handyman (my favorite btw) whatever. Don’t be boring. Everyone is talented at something, so make an impression with those talents. You can do it without being a show-off, too. Talk about things but be smart girls don’t like dumbasses, well unless of course you are fat ass with fat wallet some girls make an exception.

Be a Little Bit of a Dick
The nicer you are, the less chance you’ll have with a girl. Similarly, if you’re a complete asshole, you’ll also have less chance with a girl. The key is finding that happy medium where you’re challenging her a bit, but also not straight-up insulting her.

Don’t Make it a Big Deal
Think of how many nights out that had the sole goal of hooking up fell short of your expectations. Don’t let failure ruin your life or even keeping you from having fun. Just look to the other side of the bar.

Dance
Women aren’t looking for someone who has world-class moves out there – they are looking for someone secure enough with himself to look silly but willing to try.

Smell Nice
Not every guy is the best looking guy in the room. Every guy can practice proper grooming habits, though. Don’t smell like a homeless man, and pop in a breath mint every now and then. Girls are looking for an excuse to sleep with you. Cleaning up nicely could be that excuse.

Tequila
Don’t be too aggressive with ordering shots. But it makes you seem fun, and girls are really just trying to have fun. Just try not to vomit.

Have Cool Body Language
Interacting with a girl is entirely a confidence game. More than anything, you have to believe you are going to get laid, or that you at least can pull it off. Remember that if you are interacting with a girl one on one, there are no rules as to who is “above” the other.

Make Self Humor So She Feels Comfortable
Make her feel comfortable around you by letting her know that you don’t take yourself too seriously. Girls like that about men make them smile and willing to do casual flirt more openly.

Appear to be Interested in What She Has to Say--Ask Follow Up Questions
You don’t have to actually listen. Just pretend that you are interested of what she is saying, smile casually, respond flirtatiously with your body language and ask follow up question.     

Don’t Complain
If you’re the type of person who makes casual conversation by complaining about how much you hate your job, your roommates, your financial situation, your overly expensive rent, or the bar you happen to be at, you suck. Like it or not, your bitching kind of makes you bitch. There is nothing attractive of man who complains about his life but at the same time expect to have the best sex in his life. No big boy that won’t fly. Stop complaining if you want to smell the cherry blossom.

Don’t Talk About Your Ex, EVER
I don't care if the girl you’re hitting on has the same last name, comes from the same state or country, or looks like your ex, for all intents and purposes, when you leave the house, your ex doesn’t exist. No one, and I mean no one, wants to hear about that slut -- your friends included.

Compliment Her Without Being Cheesy
Or, be smooth.  You don’t need to pull shit like “ I can see the sunshine through your eyes they are so bright and big” …..When she makes a clever point during small talk, follow up by telling her that’s a good point and you never thought of it that way. Tell her you like something about the way she looks. Be natural, be sincere. No cheesy.

IF NONE OF ABOVE WORKS AND YOU ARE STILL HORNY………WELL

Buy a Hooker
I suppose this is technically the easiest way to getting laid. Unless you can...

Would you rather be alone than be with the wrong person?

I hear so many times "I can't be with him anymore but I am afraid to leave" or "I love him but he is the wrong for me and I don't know how to leave"

Why do we have go trough all these nonsense. Would you rather be alone than be with the wrong person?
I'd rather be single than waste my time on somebody who's not gonna take me seriously. I'd rather watch other couples be happy than be in a relationship where I'm gonna be miserable. I'd rather feel lonely than feel alone even when I'm with somebody. I'd rather wait until someone comes along & genuinely wants to be with me, than rush into something with someone who just wanna play games with me. Fuck all that nonsense. Too many people just wanna 'have fun' nowadays, which is fine because at our age, I don't blame you, it's normal. 

When enough is enough. When you said I want to be happy and you are not the one for me. What is going to take to realize how important is YOU to be happy rather than try to make someone else happy and you cry your eyes out every night. How much you value yourself as a individual?
Ask your self what makes you happy, what makes you smile, what makes you alive? If you have the answer then live it and move on. Don't waste your life with the wrong person just because you are afraid to be alone or because you feel comfortable in the relationship. Don't let life pass you by , don't give your life to someone else. You have only ONE. You don't always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go and see what happens. Never underestimate your strength  You are born for a purpose and are blessed with the power to achieve it.

In life you will meet 2 kinds of people: The Ones who build you up,and The Ones who tear you down. But in the end you will thank them BOTH.

Your destiny is too great don't let fear intimidate you

How a man knows he is loved !

Where a woman feels love for those who emotionally and physically support her,

a man feels love in response to a woman's gracious, and loving reactions to him. To keep the score even in a relationship,a man really doesn't require anything but love.

Women don’t realize the power of their love and many times unnecessarily  seek to earn a man’s love by doing more things for him than they want to do. If a man doesn't feel appreciated, then all her contributions to the running of the house are totally meaningless to him. 

As most women also know, sex is one of the biggest and best rewards for a man. True proof that you love him. 

Sometimes men are very vulnerable in ways that are familiar to women. You can tell because they come to you to talk. They ask you what you think of a situation.  Once they finish speaking, they are ready to hear your advice, and it is the ultimate sign of trust and love from a man.

When men help you, men are very vulnerable. Were they competent at making you happy? 

They are not sure, but you can let them know. They need a lot of appreciation and your expression of happiness will evoke more helping behaviors.

Men rarely say they are sorry because they are afraid that they won’t be forgiven .When they are wrong, they are terrified of their own incompetence. A man will love you very much if you forgive him his flaws and love him anyway.

How a man knows he is loved  

1. Let him know you love having sex with him 

2. Show that you are happy to be with him when he comes home from work

3. Don't make a big deal out of his errors - like forgetting his keys, or taking the wrong road :-) 

4.If he disapoints you try not to get angry. ( I know ladies this is the hard one but you can do it) 

5. Ask for things you want, rather than emphasize what he has done wrong  

6.  Give him this "15" minutes a day just for him. Man needs attention just for HIM. Cuddle, touch , feel, kiss....

7.  Give him a powerful words to make everything that happened before irrelevant. Example: Appreciate and say thank you for  every little things  he does for you. And you will come to realize how blessed you truly are.

10 Signs You're a Control Freak

Control freaks rarely know that they are one. They believe that they are helping people with their "constructive criticism" or taking over a project because " no one else will do it right." They don't see their controlling behaviors as symptoms of what's really going on-their own anxiety has taken over noticeable.

  

Irrational thoughts abound in our high stress world: If I don't get this contract, I'll get fired. If  I don't perform well she/he will leave me. If I don't get that raise, I suck at my job....and on and on and on............. All of these thoughts might be true, but probably not.

Want to know if you're a control freak? Here are eight signs for your self-diagnosing pleasure.

1. You believe that if someone would change one or two things about themselves, you'd be happier. So you try to "help them" change this behavior by pointing it out, usually over and over.
2. You judge others' behavior as right or wrong and passive-aggressively withhold attention until they fall in line with your expectations. Sitting in silent judgment is a master form of control.
3. You offer "constructive criticism"
4. You change who you are or what you believe so that someone will accept you. Instead of just being yourself, you attempt to incept others by managing their impression of you.
5. You have lots of personal rules, routines, rituals, and ceremonies.
6. You "help" other people drive - tell them what route to take, when to turn, where to park, remind them that the traffic light has changed.
7. You dislike depending on others, accepting help from them, or allowing them to do things for you.
   8.  You "over-plan" simple activities. 
   9. You find it difficult to admit making mistakes, being wrong or misinformed about something, or acknowledging that you've changed your mind.
   10. You become angry, irritable, or anxious when someone or something makes you late, when things don't start on time, or things don't go according to plan.

You believe that if you can change another person's undesirable behavior, then you will be happier or more fulfilled. You make someone else responsible for how you feel.

The thing is, you are only responsible for you. The road to better relationships always starts with you. Rather than attempt to control everyone else, work on becoming a better version of yourself. Here are a few ideas:

• Be vulnerable with people.
• Be realistic about your expectations of others. 
• Quit the passive-aggressive nonsense--be direct. 
• Accept that a large portion of life is laced with unknowns. 
• Embrace confrontation--it really is sometimes the only thing you can do. 
• Take responsibility for your own happiness.

If you work on your own improvement instead of trying to control others, healthier relationships at work, as well as everywhere else, will then come to you as a result.

What exactly is control freak ? ..or is just your BIG EGO difficult to compromise and always have to be right?