Express Your Thoughts and Anger Without Pushing Him Away

Expressing your anger in the wrong way can instantly result in a loss of intimacy in your relationship. Next time you’re about to scream at him  or “hold it in,” 
follow these steps and watch now  they powerfully bring your man closer.

Just letting out your feelings all over a man by scream and yelled  at him will only push him away.  And keep it low your feelings by pretending (to him, or to yourself) that you feel something else will also create distance between you and a man.  Here’s why…and what to do instead so you not only say what you really want, but you draw a man closer to you because of it.

HOW HIDING YOUR ANGER CREATES DISTANCE

Our self-esteem depends on how honest we are with ourselves,  and the moment we say or do something that is not being true to what’s really going on with us, our self-esteem goes down.  And as our self-esteem goes down, we become less attractive.  A man is naturally drawn to a woman who is in tune with her feelings and who has both the confidence and the self-love to NOT put up with what doesn't feel good. Men are attracted to strong  independent  women who can clean the house, work hard, make dinner and give you the best blow job ever and she will do it over again tomorrow with no complain. Turn on for a real man.

Usually, we hide  our anger so much that we wind up unleashing it on a man in a way he can’t hear – or we express anger about something completely different than what we’re actually angry about. 

If you have ever blown up at a man because he didn't pick up after himself when you were actually craving more romance and attention from him, you know what I mean.  You were really feeling angry about feeling unloved, not about his dirty socks.

8 STEPS THAT WILL CHANGE EVERYTHING

So, if we’re feeling hurt, disappointed and angry, how do we “let it out” truthfully in a way that increases his attraction to us and changes whatever is going on that made us angry in the first place?

1.  STOP.  Interrupt whatever you’re about to do or say – it hasn’t worked before. Think before you talk and especially if you had use the same line before and didn’t worked.

2.  Sit down.  Don’t go somewhere else so he won’t see you.

3.  Take a deep breath.  Let it out, and then breathe in and out two more times.  Imagine the air flowing all the way down your body and relaxing each body part as it touches it.

4.  Find the feeling. Let’s say he made plans to do something else when you were hoping for a romantic evening.  Know what the feeling is NOT:  It’s NOT “I’m so glad you made other plans, because I really wanted to spend the evening alone washing my hair.”  You know you feel BAD.  You know you feel disappointed and angry.

5.Tell the truth.  Without saying the word “you” (which only serves to blame him and make him defensive), say:  “I feel bad,” or “I feel disappointed,” or “I feel angry.”

6. Don’t back down.  You might feel vulnerable and afraid that you have gone too far.  
You haven’t.  If he apologizes, thank him.  And then say, “”I don’t like feeling bad (or disappointed or angry). 
It makes me feel turned off.”

7. That’s it; you’re done.  Listen to what he has to say, but don’t get into a discussion about it.  Your goal here was simply to honor your feelings (and therefore yourself) by communicating your feelings to him.

8.  Immediately do something that makes you happy.  It could be something as small as making yourself a cup of coffee or going for a walk.  The point is that you are taking care of yourself rather than expecting him to do so, which makes you even more attractive in his eyes.

The next time you feel yourself build up with anger and unsure about how to handle it, try the steps above.  It takes practice and time to handle it in a right way.  Once you do, I know you’ll feel so much better about yourself – and so much more adored by the man in your life.  The stronger you feel, the more the anger will dissolve, and you will discover a whole new level of intimacy in your relationship.

How to save your relationship

I made quite few mistakes in my personal life. I took some quick decisions without really think about and instead of that I should have shut up, listen, think, talk and act but I guess sometimes that's the only way  we learn not matter what price we have to pay at the end.

Before you even start to discussing your relationship and start blaming each other who’s fault it is , think about what went wrong, you need to take the time to really think about the gap in your relationship, how things have changed and what has put the relationship in jeopardy. Take time and go for a walk or write about what’s bothers you before you speak. This could be easy answer, there can be one major reason you or your loved one was unfaithful and that changed the dynamic between you two or maybe your man lost his job and can’t give you the affection that you need. Maybe also can be that you are just different people. As I said few times in my life : “Sometimes love is not enough” that can be the case but in order to try saving your relationship you should have honest conversation with your significant other. It’s likely that this has been a problem for quite sometimes so you should find the right time and place to open up a discussion about your relationship. Let your partner talk, listen what he/she think that went wrong or is going wrong and discuss whether you agree or not.

Decide if your relationship is worth fixing. Many relationship end up for a good reason, and it is time for you to decide if you even want to fix the relationship before you move forward. Maybe you really love and care about each other and want things to improve, or maybe there is too much complication and miscommunications to repair the situation. Decide if you can see the future with each other. When you think of the future is your significant other in it? If you can’t see each other in a long term , maybe Is time to hit the road. This is maybe something you don’t want to hear or admit it because you think that he/she will change and everything will go back to normal and you will fell in love again. Wrong. Once is broken and you start feeling this uncomfortable feeling in your stomach then is time to talk and decide what’s next. Don’t waste time waiting for him/her to change. People don’t change, people make compromises and do sacrifices for each other if they want but they do that because they love and care not because they change for you.

Decide if you can work in extreme situations and difficult circumstances.

Make a game plan. It is important to understand that this is two people process and that you both are committed to making the relationship last. Once you have both decided that you want to save the relationship, and then you need to start making plan of moving forward. Decide rather or not you need to see relationship counselor. This is a great way to let it all out and be honest to each other and to find out how to make things better. Make time for working on your relationship. No more excuses such as I had a bad day, work too hard, have a headache. You need to make “Our time” just for two of you even if is just for cup of coffee or 10 minutes walking the dog just find this time just the two of you.

Learn to open up again. Many relationship fails because couples simply stop sharing their thoughts and  the details of their daily lives. Be honest. Learn to share your fears, anxiety and insecurity with your loves one again. But don’t forget to share the positive things in your life too.

Work on compromising. Make big decisions together. If you want to make things work don’t ever take big decision without talking to your loved one and listen his/her opinion. Stop fighting. Many relationships fall apart because couple spend most of the times arguing about stupid things such as yogurt brand, dusting the table, picking up socks ……Only if you think how much time and energy we waste for such a things. Don’t yell. Learn to speak calmly and slow, learn to listen and don’t pick up fights. I went through that and did it all above but only if I can explain with words how unnecessary all this is. A lot of times what drives me crazy is the passive-aggressive person. If something is actually bothers you then speak up instead of keeping it all in. If you don’t share what’s wrong you will only make things worse. If you think by being silence will make the conversation easier you are wrong it won’t make it any easier for you. One advice from me don’t write your feelings on a note or e-mail, don’t be afraid to avoid real conversation.

Find new things that you can do together a hobby or something that can both enjoy it. Be romantic and reconnect. Get physical together go hiking, ride bicycle, watch a movie together and discuss it after. Take time and go through some old photos you have together, refresh your memory from the day you met and talk about these days. Plan a trip together. Start something new.

Top 10 Spots That Will Drive Her Crazy.

   















Most men remain curious as to what turns a woman on. What spot can they touch to drive her absolutely crazy?

Well gentlemen, today's your lucky day because I have the top 10 answers.

Men are easier than women to discover their erogenous zones  (the penis, the testicles and the anus), well women have very diverse body parts. Ah women, what a exciting and sexual creation.
Let's get started on you journey through a woman's body, shall we?

10. Inner Thighs
The inside of the thighs are highly sensitive to touching, and licking you will turn her on like crazy.
Remember not to bite because the area is very sensitive and doing so would only cause her mild pain, which will, in turn, cause you plenty of pain.

9. Behind the Knees
Because of all the nerve endings behind the knees, you'd be surprised at how crazy a woman can become when you gently lick or nibble on the back of her knees.

Be careful not to overdo it -- be careful not to make the sensation annoying by getting too rough or tickling her too much.

8. Buttocks
Yes, it's true. Lots of women like it when you play around with their behinds. A lot of women like mild spanking and squeezing of the buttocks.

7. Nape of the Neck
Just breathing on this part of her body will give her goose bumps all over. So just imagine her reaction when you use your tongue or teeth to get her aroused.

Use your hands too; lift her hair up gently as you bring your mouth closer to her neck. Then, as you sink your teeth into it, pull on her hair slightly so as to give that "I want you sooo bad" impression.
This part of a woman's body is also a good place to start giving her that sensual massage you are famous for and no woman can resist.

6. Ears
Many women enjoy having their ears licked, sucked or kissed.

Don't whisper things like, "Can you wash my gym shorts tonight?" Try to be somewhat erotic and give her the shivers up and down her spine instead.


5. Feet
Many women enjoy having their feet touched, massaged and some even enjoy having them licked and sucked. 

4. Wrists
This may come as a shock to most guys (women have wrists??!?), but women love having their wrists nuzzled and nibbled by their lovers. The next time you're getting into the foreplay of things with your women, begin kissing and caressing her wrists and just check out how impressed and turned on she'll become!

3. Breasts (Nipples)
As I'm sure is no surprise to anyone, the breasts are very sexually sensitive and gentle fondling, squeezing, caressing, licking and sucking of the nipples can be extremely arousing.

Just as well, many women like it when their guys get a little rough with their little mountains , so find out how she likes it and give it to her the way she wants!

2. Vagina/Clitoris
The clitoris can be stimulated by using the tongue, the finger or, for the multi-talented HERO, both simultaneously. Some women like to guide their lovers as to the specific amount of pressure they enjoy.

In the vagina, the G-spot may be a little difficult to locate, but some women find the search quite worthwhile. There is an area inside some women's vaginas that produces intense sexual feelings when stimulated. Once located, very gentle stimulation gives an incredibly pleasant and unusual sensation.

And the number one female erogenous zone...

1. Lips
Yes, it's true. If you know how to manipulate her lips just right through kissing, licking, sucking and biting, it is very possible that a kiss will lead to a lot more than that. Use your lips, your tongue and your teeth to play with her top and bottom lip and kiss her with absolute passion.

And there it is, the top 10 spots that will drive her crazy. Remember that all women are different and have their own likes and dislikes. Get to know her body and experiment. There's so much more to women than just their sexual organs.

Hugs & Kisses

WHAT MEN REALLY WANT IN BED

Communications between men and women have always been complicated and especially when comes to relationship.

Men likes sex, smell sex, think sex, talk about sex. They are different animals than women. While we women ( well most of us)  like to express our sexual desires we always manage  talking about romantic dinner first and ,men they just get to the point. Where, when, who, what and for how long. Is it fair??? Well maybe not maybe yes but is a choice :-) but if you really want to get him going and make him shut up and you to be the one talking about the kind of sex you had last night you should do the following:

1.Great lingerie , Yes you may think is a cliche but you will be surprise. Buy something for special occasion.

2.Leave the lights on. You want to see the body, the face, the body language and you don't want to be miss the show.

3. If you start feeling horny but your partner is in the middle of his favorite TV show make a move but the soft one don't be too aggressive. Blow job between commercial time is a great start for a wild sex.....who knows he may realize that the TV is not that interested comparing to your show :-)

4. Call sick at your work and ask your partner to do the same. Broke the rules and let it all out for the day. Eat in bed, watch silly movies and make love.

5.Don't think only about your orgasm. Men likes women who think about their pleasure as well. Sometimes you have to sacrifice yourself and men will appreciate that.

6. Don't be afraid to be dominated by your partner. That's going to make him want you more.

7. Never be afraid to scream from pleasure. SCREAM if you feel like it. Don't be afraid to talk while you are having sex but also don't be too talkative men are not good in multitasking  like us, they can only concentrate at one thing at the time, so if you want to talk a lot you better do it before having sex or in between few words just to keep him hot. When you have sex with your partner give everything at this moment, don't think about coming, don't  think about orgasm, think about the sex you are having now and the feeling of the two bodies.

8. Improvise when comes to place or location. Sometimes you need to experience something extreme , fear of being caught in public is a great sexual drive for most well experience sexual couples.

9. There are so many alarm clock this days available in stores but the best alarm is SEX. Morning sex is a the best wake up call. 

Oh yes I forgot one thing and this is only for single women with one night stand or butty calls: Don't take the chance to say his name while you are having and ecstatic  orgasm be safe and take my advice : 

"BABY" ALWAYS WORK  AND WILL NEVER PUT YOU IN UNCOMFORTABLE  AND AWKWARD SITUATION:::--))))

Nice Guys vs Bad Guys

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Is it true the saying " Nice guys finish last" ?

We know that the nice guys end up often in the 'Friend Zone" but even women try to hide we do love nice guys with little roughness but sweet. What's the real deal?

Nice vs Bad!!!

Most everyone knows — or at least knows of — a stereotypical “bad boy.” He’s the guy with high self-esteem who wins over women with his charm and  impulsive behavior. Many girls also know a “nice guy,” someone’s who is always there for them and can make them feel special. Women typically say they want a nice guy, yet usually end up dating a bad boy. 

Have you ever dated a guy even though you knew he was a "bad boy" ???
Have you ever dated a "nice guy" just because you din't want drama????

I think we all have this nice guy close to us that we feel comfortable around , he make you laugh, he  is a gentleman, respectful, honest etc...but  no matter how nice he is you are not attracted to him and there few reasons why: There is a time and you can't lied that you didn't picture him being more than a nice friend but you think no matter how sweet he is if you are in a relationship with him he is too predictable and when we feel about men that way it can get boring.  Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they're attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge equals I prefer a bad boy.

Bad to the Bone

Protective: Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women and most girls want a guy who will make them feel secure. 

A woman might “like it” when a nice guy does nice things ,but it doesn't make her feel ATTRACTED to that man. Well, guess what? It works the same way for “nice women.” Being a “nice girl” can’t “convince” a guy to like you or want you just because you do sweet things and are overly accommodating. In fact, it can actually “kill” any attraction that may have been there.

Are we intelligent enough to make the choice that's right for us or do we just simply always want what we can't have ? 

So which way is right , which way is wrong?  Nice vs Bad!!!

Do you believe in open relationships?

What does it really mean "Open Relationship" and is it possible?
Open relationship can be very tricky I think. Never experience but keep hearing from people that they are really happy with their OR but I am thinking just because I don't understand the concept I am not in a position to judge. 

What does it mean anyway? 
You are allow to have sex and date other people and don't really talk to your partner or you share your thoughts and feelings but stay together for............ ???? what??????
Why would you be with someone call it boyfriend or girlfriend and have OR at the same time? 
An open relationship allows both sides to date outside of the relationship without consequence and they are not required to be sexually exclusive to the other.When you agree that romantic or intimate relationship with another person is accepted, permitted  or tolerated and you are  in non-monogamous relationship, can you just have bunch of booty calls and no one get hurts at the end?

I just picturing this : My boyfriend comes home in the morning after night out and I ask him : 

Me: How was  your night baby? 
His answer: It was really cool. I met this hot chick and we made out in the bathroom but was nothing special , you know you are my dream woman and I love you very much
Me: That's cool. I know I am your woman and you love me very much. I am the luckiest woman in the world. Ok cool. Do you want some breakfast?

How can you truly love someone this way?
Is that normal? Am I old fashion if I don't understand this concept?

Love & Sex Department

If I have to be honest I have never been very good in the love department just recently I experience extreme situations of so much love and desire and somehow I felt wiser and passionate and everything I do or say comes so natural like I had it inside me my whole life but never came alive and now finally I can talk about and share with you. Some women think that because they are tomboys, powerful or simply strong personality they do not have love & passionate  emotions. We all have them and feel them is just how we consume it. Don't be afraid, I was one of you once. I always thought I don't need man to make me happy and I used most of them to get what I wanted SEX. But then I discover passion and love making instead of hit and run. You can still have boy toys ( who doesn't love them) but even if you do have him for few hours  make the best time of your life feel the passion, the need, be vulnerable , let it all out....

Asking for what you want is worth the embarrassment.Don't worry about your orgasm  you will chase it away if  you think too much. Fell and live the moment. Yes you can give him a hand nothing wrong with that. I know a lot of women don't like to make love with lights on but you always have to be confident in yourself the way your vagina looks, however is perfectly normal.Every woman have a super-fire making position-find yours.I will reveal a little secret of mine.Some of my favorite positions are 

The Butterfly , The Splitting Bamboo, The Hero and couple more :-) 

Learn how to please yourself first. Don't have sex before you are turn on. Don't be afraid to be sexual. 

Spend the weekend day with your man. Book a room for only one night at the local hotel.

Go wild. I dare you............

Just a thought 

Do men like women who are playing hard to get or do they prefer easy fix?

These days we have so many options available and we have easy access to so many tasty temptations.

Do men like women who are playing hard to get or do they prefer easy fix and not too much complications?

Do you think women who play hard to get are more worth it at the end? Maybe because they know who they are and what they want. This is something that can intriguer men but how far can we go before he gave up and we end up empty handed  just because we played it wrong. Well I think a good advice to women is to ,first you should know that playing hard to get gives men something to fight for. We all know how much men like a good challenge and when you say " No you can't" that's the time when he will get extremely motivate it just to prove a point, so you can be sure if a men wants the challenge he will do nothing but win it......... well of course if he thinks you are worth it, so before you challenge him make sure that you know who you are, what you want and what you getting yourself into. After the whole chase when man get inside your pants they can breathe easier and they think that the chase is over and he won.....well now is up to you if you want to give up or you want to take the lead because once he is inside let him know with your body language that he got what he wanted it but be smart and use your POP to be the winner. You sure will get your ego boost, but be careful sometimes too hard to get can be big turn off for a man.

My advice to all women who are playing hard to get : Get rid off the shity attitude, be more confident in yourself, and don't try to prove a point at the end you will get laid and you will be giving 5 minutes blow job, so no matter what you do and how you do it if you want to win you still can do it but don't waste precious time while you can be having amazing orgasm and be the coolest bitch. Before you start hard to get games make sure you know the rules. Knowing how to pay hard with a guy can be the difference between keeping the guy interested and loosing him.

Good sex and talk or long term security?

Would you rather have relationship based on good sex and communication but not too serious or less sex, daily routine & conversations but long term security? How do you really know how long is long term?
It is interesting how we fell in love with stranger , then this person became someone we can't live without  and once the love is gone this person became the stranger we met while back at the bar.
Don't make it too complicated no one will get out alive anyway.
I am thinking hot and sexy, good talk and good wine. Looking back trying to figure this out was just a waste of time.

Friends with benefits ( FWB)

No strings attached relationship??? As long as you know what you are getting  into. Is it  that easy to say
" See ya later baby"...and just walk out without any feelings involved? Few things are worth it : walk of shame is not that embarrassing, won't have to worry driving home after one too many glasses of wine, bed time is sexy , silly and fun. On the other side how can we keep ourselves from not falling in love?
Before you make this decision of No strings-attached arrangement make sure that you understand that you can't make him your boyfriend dream and don't think you will change his mind. Don't get mad if your FWB goes out with someone else.He is not cheating on you. Agreed? After several sexy hot nights with your FWB you start wonder if you should go out for coffee, see a movie.....but I say no. Don't do it. Unless you both have feelings and want more from this FWB relationship. Make sure you protect yourself because while your FWB have no responsibilities to you is just sex. So don't be stupid and think that he is only sleeping with you. He is not. You know that but is good to admit it to yourself. Use protection. Don't convince yourself the relationship is more serious than it is. Saying no is ok, saying yes is ok. Just be clear how far can go.....and very simple "Don't hate the players, hate the game"

What do guys prefer boobs or butt ?

I know most of you will say BOTH of course but there must be first choice and higher preference. Two men's favorite things. They belong together like butter and Nutella . Some men are lucky enough to have a woman with good boobs and sexy ass that turn heads around. Some guys like small asses , some like big butts and some don't care as long is sexy in their eyes. Boobs , just about the same, big , sexy , small, nipple preference.Would you rather have shelf rack flat boobs with jelly  round butt  or Triple D and hard time to breath with cottage cheese ass? However, what if you could only have one? 

Phone sex - YES PLEASE!!!

                                         

Phone sex is the perfect way to make passionate connection when you are apart. Use your imagination, describe your detail fantasies. At first can be little bit uncomfortable and tongue tied but when you lose in up  lie back  close your eyes and picture his fingers all over your body . Play with them everywhere and anywhere. You will feel so in harmony, ecstatic and wet. And if you don't feel comfortable you should ask your man to take the Lead  and you should concentrate to every word he said.  Be careful it can be very slippery so make sure you leave the phone in a safe place but close enough to hear his voice.You will be surprise how easy you can reach an orgasm and relief your tension :-)  Now call him & do him ;-) and get ready for Girls night Out.                                    

Ladies why can't we speak openly about using vibrator?

People always talk about kinky staff and wild performances behind doors but why we can't open up and express loud out how we really feel outside the bedroom. Vibrator is one the best pleasurable creation and even the first one was made in  year 1734 we still have hesitation to talk about it and feel ashamed.
Masturbation can improve your mood without any obligation. You can have multiple orgasm. Can relax you and make you  more affectionate. Definitely can improve your sex life with your partner. Even better vibrator doesn't talk, doesn't control you ( you are the one in control) , always available and never get tired to go all night long :-) So instead of hiding it in the closet take it all  out use it, abuse it , consume it ........Oh yes and one more thing give him a name make it more personal in a sexual fascinating way.

Why do we always question our happiness?

Why do we always  ask questions and look for a reasons for our happiness?  We often ask ourselves when everything seems to be perfect is it too good to be true? 
I think is possible, actually I know it is because I am living it. Nothing is perfect and nothing is forever but when is reality I except it and I don't ask questions. Why we always get scare more from happiness and joy than from fear and pain. Once you feel happy and find yourself smile for no reason why do you have to ask why. Instead ask yourself WHY NOT? 
You deserve to be happy, to smile and to enjoy life the way is giving to you. You attract what you create. If you create happiness surround you that's what you going to get back. The feeling is just amazing when  you realize that you are above the small problems and answer with positive attitude. You happiness depends on your approach of life. When everything is good in your life don't try to find something or don't try to create the reason not to be, because when you looking for something you will find it but is it that what you are looking for or you are just afraid to face reality. You are saying " This is too good to be true" so does that mean you want to be unhappy, miserable and sad  to be more believable or do you want to enjoy these happy days and look forward for tomorrow? I know maybe is hard to except that is just too good to be true when your girlfriend is Hot, Smart, Hard Worker, Good cook, Love to clean and wash  dishes, Doesn't want any gifts just your love, Tells you everyday I love you and on top of all that she gives you the best blow job ever and always horny for you......TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE. Well yes I can see why you are afraid because is too much of a good but how about if you don't look for any reasons and stop question why is so good . Don't be afraid to be happy and to be loved. 
You have a reason to smile and once you make it a habit there is nothing that can make you cry. Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadows. Is just so simple don't make it complicated. Don't think about if one day will be over think about how can you keep it longer. If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.

How do you know if your feelings are real?

Feeling you inside doesn't mean that you understand my needs. Listening to my words doesn't mean that you understand what I am saying. Kissing me doesn't mean that we connect. How do you really know when you have the real physical attraction and connection to your partner?
What is that thing can really lift you up of our feet and make you fly?

Before you answer these questions ask yourself  what is the meaning  to you and the definition of Love, Good Sex, Good Conversation  and a Friendship.
Love comes in different forms Love for your family, Love for your friends ,Love for you pets and Love for your partner. Love doesn't come as easy as sex or words. Love can take a lifetime to understand and feel  build based on respect, trust , attraction and communication.
A girl told me once " I went out last night and I met this guy OMG, he was so good in bed the best sex I ever had" , and I can see her sparkle in her eyes and the desire for more ... I have to be honest that made me horny :-) and then she said " I am so in Love" . Oh no girlfriend this is not LOVE. Just because you opened the safety box and your Vagina went on testosterone diet  blowing the whistle and saw your falling  star doesn't mean that you are in Love it means that you can probably will experience unpleasant itch, sleepless nights waiting for the phone to ring and broken heart hopping that the next one it's going to be different.
Make the difference between FUCK AND LOVE.
You experience LOVE when you touch the person you can actually feel it not only in the moment but in the future, the feeling of I want to touch you forever or when you kiss the person you want never to end, or when you make love you can actually have a real orgasm and you don't have to fake it in order not to hurt his ego.
I will explain and be very detail of how a woman and man really know if they are in LOVE..............next blog

One Night Stand - The Morning After ( GIRLS ONLY)

Ladies, I know chances are, you've been in this situation. Or, if you're too goody-goody to admit it, you've had a "friend" who was in the same situation. It's nothing to be ashamed of, either way. It's not something you want to share at the Thanksgiving dinner table with all your relatives either, but at one point or another, the majority of us have had a one-night stand. Whether it be a drunken blur from a fraternity party or a flirtation from across the bar that went a bit too far, and you wake up to find yourself next to a guy that looked a lot more like Leonardo DiCaprio ten shots ago, you find yourself in the ultimate of awkward situations. No matter if it was your call for this to happen or his you both end up in the same bed and be honest with yourself YOU had sex with the stranger. Yes the morning after can be very awkward no matter how great sex was but don't lose your cool, whatever you do, and just follow the following set of guidelines which will help you get through this moment.

Absolutely my number ONE advice
If possible, try to leave before he wakes up. It will make you that much more mysterious. And if he really likes you, he'll attempt to find you. He'll ask around, maybe go again to the same fraternity house or bar that you met at, and he'll look for you. Guys will go to great lengths for a girl they really view as worth the effort.

Don't give him the whole "I've never done this before" routine. That will just make him more likely to think of this as a repeat activity for you. You don't need to prove yourself to anyone. You know in your heart whether or not this is in your nature, and it can be your little secret. No one needs to know how many strangers you've gone home with on multiple occasions. You should feel free to forget that number too, if you like. And if the guy asks you if you've done this before, simply say, "It's not normally my nature," give him a smile, and change the subject. Enough said.

Don't overstay your welcome. You wake up, look at the clock, and you should already be glancing around the room, eyeing your belongings. Don't wait around in bed, especially after he gets up. Don't hang out while he takes a shower either. When the guy leaves the room to take his shower, he secretly is hoping that you will leave during that period of time. Unless he specifically indicates that he would like you to stick around, don't assume. Another indicator of him wanting you to stay would be if he actually invited you to shower with him. I still say you should leave, even when offered the invite.Plus, that shower could be just another testosterone-filled excuse so he can score an extra morning session before he starts his day.

Don't attempt to engage him in conversation. Not all guys are morning people, and having a conversation with a stranger you just woke up next to can be one of the strangest and most uncomfortable experiences. If you find that he's answering you without really answering meaning no interesting answers that's your indicator right there that he just doesn't want to talk. And if you feel that you just must chat with him, don't mention the hook-up, the future, or anything touchy in that aspect. You'll only make him that much more eager to have you leave.

Don't offer to leave your number or ask him to call you. When men want something, they will get it themselves. If he has any intention of calling you, he will ask that you write down your number before you leave. Obviously if you say to him, "Do you want my number?" he's going to feel bad if he says no, so any male would feel the safer choice would be to have you write down your digits, and then they just go straight into the trashcan. And you will be waiting by the phone for a call that will never come!

If he does invite you for breakfast or to hang out, even if you really want to, thank him but turn down the offer. If he has any real interest in you, he will try to set up a future date with you. Besides, do you really want to sit across from the table from him in broad daylight with last night's makeup still on your face?

If you don't remember his name, don't ask him what it is. That will look very bad on your part. See if he remembers yours first. That's a true indicator as to how much interest he really has in you.

If you happen to wake up in his house and find yourself heading down the "Walk of Shame", don't act embarrassed or ashamed. Simply roll your eyes, act like you couldn't care less, and walk out with your head straight up in the air. You have nothing to be ashamed about because you wanted that as much as he did.

Don't ask him "how you were" last night. Chances are, he probably doesn't remember. And if he does, he will say something about it.

Don't get on your cell phone while you get dressed in front of him and tell your friend that you're "in some random guy's room and can't remember how crazy last night was." Save the gossip for when you have left and are well under way.

One-Night stands sometimes are the best sex you ever had. Who says this is a man thing? We women can actually do it much better . Look at you, smile at you, talked you to it, show you affection, suck you in, spin you around and spit you out. Now keep your head up when you do the walk of shame because you got what you want it :-)

One-Night Stand Morning-After DO's and DON'Ts. ( GUYS ONLY)

What a night. You roll over to find someone wrapped in your sheets with her hair covering her face and you try to remember her name and how you got here. Panic appears as you look at the clock and it reads 7:45..it's beyond the time for her to be gone. You have to get started with your day. You wonder to yourself "how can I tell her she needs to go without sounding disrespectful?". You roll out of bed and shuffle around, putting your clothes on and turn the t.v on hoping to wake her. She doesn't move. This is prime time for you to handle the situation as a gentleman even if the only thing you remember about her is that thing she did with her tongue. Here are some rules from my perspective as a female that will help you out.

Don't compliments about her sexual techniques

Keep in mind the woman you just spent the night with knows exactly how she gets down, and what she is capable of doing. Giving a play by play of the night can lead to an uncomfortable exchange of words if she's not quite ready to deal with the situation as a whole and you mention "That thing you do with your tongue was really hot..next time could you..?" There might not even be a next time. Keep in mind some women, just as some men pursue one night stands like it's a sport. Or the opposite could be true and she's never had an overnight tryst before. 

Offer her a cup of coffee or O'J

This is another act that isn’t really a necessity, but that is very, very nice and will definitely not be under-appreciated. Plus, it’s easier than flipping an omelet. That shit takes skill. Coffee and morning after go together like one-night stands and condoms.

Don't brag about your display of physical ability 

Just because you may think she was pleased by your knowledge of the Karma Sutra doesn't mean that she was. Even if she was impressed by your prowess there are a million other things running through her head at this moment other than how sexually advanced you are and how exactly you obtained your knowledge of the female anatomy. Even the most desperate woman will be turned off by the thought of how you practicing on another woman led you to be sleeping with her last night.

If you want to be a true gentleman just ask her to leave 

Making up stories about what you have to do in 15 minutes, or that your dog ran away will only make the female look at you like you're psycho or a liar. The smoothest end would be simply to explain to her you had a good experience, but you have responsibilities to take care of and leave it at that. This is true even if the only responsibility you have to take care of today is to yourself and watching the game at 8 p.m. A majority of females will appreciate your honesty, and many will have things they need to take care of during the day as well.

If you have no intentions of seeing her after that night DO NOT ask to exchange numbers 

Giving her the false impression that you want to continue communicating to "be nice" is the wrong way to go. The only thing that will result from you giving her your number when you really just want her to go away is repeated calls to your phone asking why she hasn't heard from you, continued invites to date, and possibly down the road phone calls from blocked phone numbers at all hours of the day. Just let her know you had a good time and that you're really not interested in anything serious at this time. It may not seem very gentlemanly but being truthful is the best way to pay respect to her.

Help her get home 

Whether it’s calling her a cab, walking her to the nearest subway platform, or giving her a lift home, be a gentleman and help her prevent the obvious walk of shame.

Kiss me...not

Last but not least when she is on her way don't give her long lasting tongue, wet kiss and don't wink. Avoid words like" See you soon"..because you don't mean it...this is an invitation in a cheap way inviting her in your bed without dinner & drinks. If you want to get rid of her as a one-night stand as it was just kiss her on a chick and say " Have a good day" Simple. 

What's your Weekly Pickup Line?

Girl, you better have a license 'cause you're driving me crazy!

15 WAYS TO GET LAID

OK BOYS GUESS WHAT - IT'S GOING TO BE A WET WEEKEND.ARE YOU READY TO HAVE FUN? 

15 WAYS TO GET LAID J

How do I get laid? It's a question asked by millions of guys, and not just virgins either. Everyone wants to know how to get laid in any and every possible scenario. 

Be as Attractive as Possible
Being attractive is the most important thing there is. If you wanna catch the biggest fish in the bar, you have to be as attractive as possible. It's not necessary, however, to look like Bradley Cooper (damn sexy) just to get laid. Sure, it helps to have a perfect ass, sexy shoulders, mysterious smile, perfect teeth,  soul-piercing eyes,…. but if you squeeze every last drop of attractiveness out of yourself -- no matter what level you’re at -- I guarantee you'll be six  inches or longer J deep inside the treasure box in no time at all.

Don’t Be Cheap
Pay for the cab, buy her a drink. Also a good way to discover your preferences.  A girl who offers to pay is likely less entitled/not a gold digger, which will go a long way if you ever decide to get serious. Decline her offer because you are a man

Be Good at Something
In other words, be interesting. Cooking, soccer, guitar, handyman (my favorite btw) whatever. Don’t be boring. Everyone is talented at something, so make an impression with those talents. You can do it without being a show-off, too. Talk about things but be smart girls don’t like dumbasses, well unless of course you are fat ass with fat wallet some girls make an exception.

Be a Little Bit of a Dick
The nicer you are, the less chance you’ll have with a girl. Similarly, if you’re a complete asshole, you’ll also have less chance with a girl. The key is finding that happy medium where you’re challenging her a bit, but also not straight-up insulting her.

Don’t Make it a Big Deal
Think of how many nights out that had the sole goal of hooking up fell short of your expectations. Don’t let failure ruin your life or even keeping you from having fun. Just look to the other side of the bar.

Dance
Women aren’t looking for someone who has world-class moves out there – they are looking for someone secure enough with himself to look silly but willing to try.

Smell Nice
Not every guy is the best looking guy in the room. Every guy can practice proper grooming habits, though. Don’t smell like a homeless man, and pop in a breath mint every now and then. Girls are looking for an excuse to sleep with you. Cleaning up nicely could be that excuse.

Tequila
Don’t be too aggressive with ordering shots. But it makes you seem fun, and girls are really just trying to have fun. Just try not to vomit.

Have Cool Body Language
Interacting with a girl is entirely a confidence game. More than anything, you have to believe you are going to get laid, or that you at least can pull it off. Remember that if you are interacting with a girl one on one, there are no rules as to who is “above” the other.

Make Self Humor So She Feels Comfortable
Make her feel comfortable around you by letting her know that you don’t take yourself too seriously. Girls like that about men make them smile and willing to do casual flirt more openly.

Appear to be Interested in What She Has to Say--Ask Follow Up Questions
You don’t have to actually listen. Just pretend that you are interested of what she is saying, smile casually, respond flirtatiously with your body language and ask follow up question.     

Don’t Complain
If you’re the type of person who makes casual conversation by complaining about how much you hate your job, your roommates, your financial situation, your overly expensive rent, or the bar you happen to be at, you suck. Like it or not, your bitching kind of makes you bitch. There is nothing attractive of man who complains about his life but at the same time expect to have the best sex in his life. No big boy that won’t fly. Stop complaining if you want to smell the cherry blossom.

Don’t Talk About Your Ex, EVER
I don't care if the girl you’re hitting on has the same last name, comes from the same state or country, or looks like your ex, for all intents and purposes, when you leave the house, your ex doesn’t exist. No one, and I mean no one, wants to hear about that slut -- your friends included.

Compliment Her Without Being Cheesy
Or, be smooth.  You don’t need to pull shit like “ I can see the sunshine through your eyes they are so bright and big” …..When she makes a clever point during small talk, follow up by telling her that’s a good point and you never thought of it that way. Tell her you like something about the way she looks. Be natural, be sincere. No cheesy.

IF NONE OF ABOVE WORKS AND YOU ARE STILL HORNY………WELL

Buy a Hooker
I suppose this is technically the easiest way to getting laid. Unless you can...