How a conflict can strengthen your relationship

When a conflict occurs it is usually about being  right or wrong on a subject that you think you know more about than your partner or simply different visions on a specific subject you argue about.You think that if you don't take control of the decisions been made or direction you are going it will have negative effects. This is absolutely normal defense reaction you feel like you have been attack and you have to protect yourself. Well instead of make it the situation worst and keep fighting about and trying to defend your point try to understand the other side and the reason of his/her opinion. What would you win when you lose? Peace. That doesn't mean that you have to give up and let the other side  win just to have peace, you have to express yourself and speak out and if the other side  still doesn't get the point take a deep breath and walk away for 10 minutes the argument is pointless and don't ask yourself why he/she doesn't understand we are all different people with different visions we see things differently just think if the argument is really worth it. You don't have to attend every argument you are invited to. After 10 minutes alone come back to your partner and you will have the answer if the fight was worth it or not. One thing you will really learn about each other is respect of each side opinion, strong communication skills and how much you love each other to argue about stupid things. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.